Story Time: My Crazy Stalker (I've Been Stalked for 4 Years)

Hey it's Liz!

It is one of the craziest moment that I ever experienced. I was so freaking scare and mostly annoyed, because whatever I did, it was useless..

Quick background story:

•Back in 2015 (it is a throwback, I'm safe now) I used to work in this distribution company as a facture administration. I also still in college back then. This man is a helper in our warehouse, he was 40 years old and I was 19 years old at that time•

The characters:

John: my stalker

Lin, An & Rie: my friends in office 

Ruth: my friend in warehouse 

What started it?

It took me years to figure out that he's been stalking me. And you know what caused it? What's sparks that obsession? It was this little innocent joke that Lin told him (mind you, I was also there) she said to him that I like him, and then she makes the heart sign to him. She's laughing her ass off, so do I. Well, I thought it's harmful, since basically almost every girls in here "ship" with him as a joke. And it didn't bother him at all, he seems to enjoy it as well. Oh boy, oh boy. Turns out he took it literally.. 

John has an "on and off" crush on me. One day, out of nowhere he reached out to me and said he wanna be friends. At that time, it's still fresh in my mind that he's a peeping tom (he get caught peeping one of my friend peeing in the toilet).

A little back story about that accident:

Lin is heading to our office which is in upstairs. She saw John's climbing from other toilet. So it's like 2 toilets separated by a thick wall with a big gap on the top, it is impossible to climb that without any tools, since it is so high. At first, she was so confused why he did that (our toilet have ventilation and she saw all of this thru ventilation's holes), since it was so weird, she start to took video of it and then she heard water splashing which means there's a person in the toilet. 

She told the victim and us too what just happened,  but too bad only his shirt that we can see but she saw him with her own eyes. John's the only one who wearing a yellow shirt at that time. We told this case to our manager but since it's only show his shirt (we can't see his face), he just told us to just be careful next time. Oh, he did suggest us to lure John again so we can get another proof but he's been quite for a while. Until few months later, he did it again.. Long story short, he got confronted and said he was sorry and also promise to not do it again.

Ok back to the main story:

After John reached out, because of that whole debacle, I don't wanna be associate with him so I ignored him. He keeps texting me so I blocked him. Turns out, he also started to chat and call my friend, Rie, non stop, till she blocked him. But he keeps coming with different different numbers, I kept blocking him, he "terrorized" my friends into giving him my number until Rie told him that I'm engaged (I'm not).

I think this will stop him but hell nah he keeps going. It did makes him quite for awhile but on 11th October 2018, office trip to Bali (I'm not coming btw) he gave a custom key chain with my name on it. He's not directly give it to me, he ask one of my friends to give it to me. He only give this souvenir to me, mind you, sus.

He also likes to give me food, ice cream, fruits, which I never accept. I made it clear that I don't want it. He said it's fine if I threw it away or gave it to others. John's so persistent, which is so annoying. Besides all of that, he started to ask me to have lunch with him (not directly, but thru my friends) what's good from all of this, is like he never have the courage to talk face to face with me, he always needs a "postman" to deliver his message. He never stop asking me to go out with him, eventho I said *NO* so many times.

This is where I started to lose my mind.. So, I'm about to go home, like usual. I never really pay attention to anyone behind me before, I always check my rear view mirror, but never really pay attention who that is. I have weird feelings that someone is following me, so I check. My heart drops, it's him! I speed up and pray on the road that I'll be safe, he also speeds up. I think I lost him! When in crowd, I tried to look back and he's not there. 

It was so horrific. Idk when he started to doing that, but he did that quietly so I didn't notice. I also reported this accident to my supervisor. He warn John to stop all of that, but John tries to reason with my supervisor, he said he just wanna makes sure I'm safe, he's not gonna do anything else.

Oh yea, so reassuring :)

I thought it was the final, but he doing something else again.. One of my friend (An) who friends with John, she saw that he share a story with my photos and some soapy quotes on it, my Facebook profile photo that I've been abandoned for years. Turns out he did this a lot, not once, not twice, but too freaking much.. It's been years, he always did something to get my attention :') 

I did confronted him to stop a couple of times, but then he will come back with the same problems and he got really confused what did he do wrong? But then I figured, I have to confront him again!

I keep finding new things from my friend (Ruth) she shared so much about what John's been doing and why he keeps doing it. I knew that they (John and his clique) have a group chat, while John's sending my pictures in the group chat, complaining why he can't have me, then those imbecile will hype him up and said "don't give up, John". They will always hyping him up when he's about to giving up.. no wonder why it keeps going for years, for them it was so entertaining, but I'm the one who's suffering all this time.. 

So Ruth, invited me to the group chat. Boy oh boy, it was so fun seeing them freaking out. Ruth is the only one who told them to stop, because I told her how much I'm depressed because of that. John's out of the group because he's see me in there and they been complaining it was no fun without him so they kicked me out. I can't monitor him again, but I still have Ruth who will keep an eye for me.

The other shocking thing, he have a folder with all my photos in it. Some of the photos that he's saving are from all of my social media (eventho i blocked so many of his accounts) so mostly it was my profile picture. Because of that I never put my face on any social media, ever again. Some photos are from all my pictures from my friends account that he's cropped, so it's just my face. Mind you, I'm so furious, I really wanted to confront him once again.

The day of my last confrontation with him:

I've been hinting to anyone that I wanna talk to John, I wanna delete all my photos in his phone so bad! Also talk about everything.. My friends showed some concern and told me to be careful. It was awful, it was so quiet, everyone almost gone now, I got extra hours but my mind is everywhere.. it's not like what I imagined before, I was so scared now and wanna back up from my plan. When I finished, I keep looking at John and it's like he knew instantly. He show me his phone, I didn't even say a word. It was my face on his screen, all my word that I've practiced in my head, it was gone.. I'm about to cry, but what I've been saying is "why? Why did you do that? Why did you do that to me?" I keep repeating those words while holding back my tears.. 

You know what he's saying?

"No, I just adore you, it's nothing. Let's think clearly"

It makes me angry, and I scream while crying. I said I was so tired and so afraid that he's been following me home, and he's so old look and creepy, look at out age gap, he's so scary, I'm so afraid of him for years. Basically, I was saying anything on mind without thinking anymore because I was so mad. He deleted everything and said he was sorry while kneeling down. 

All this ruckus made the security came and calming me down, and he told John's to go away while also told me to calm down and go home.

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Wah this took so much times that I expected. Took me months to continue writing all of this, relieving that moments making my heart hurts, I feel so angry all over again. Cause no one really take me seriously atm.

That's the last thing that I remembered, I also remembered shaking his hand when I left that office. He said sorry for me for causing me trouble all this time, he said he didn't wanna hurt me. Oh well, I finally am free~